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Change happens..

So, 2019 is in full swing and there are changes going on all over the place, don’t worry, I won’t be talking about Brexit in this post (or any in fact!)

Change can mean different things to different people, some may relate change to ‘Seasons’, others may have experienced discomfort and stress with change and the decisions that may be thrust upon them.

For some of my friends, they’re in an uncomfortable place of change right now, the kind of change with a lot of uncertainties, less stability and with the fear of the unknown just around the corner.

Other friends are entering a time of “positive change”, with a clear direction, sense of security and lesser anxiety about what’s awaiting.

For me, right now, I feel ‘stable’ - life is moving forward, my career and studies are progressing and I feel closely connected in my friendships and relationships, with each relationship growing differently, facing challenges and jumping hurdles together, but all with a clear sense of where they are all going. 

I’m writing this post today, because I’ve had many conversations this week about ‘change’, with friends, family and clients at work alike, I give the typical cliche response to anyone’s “change stress/anxiety” - that, from experience has supported me through change:

“Change is inevitable, How you deal with it is OPTIONAL” - unknown

If I reflect on all of the changes I’ve faced in my life, I’d have enough to write a story, or a film for the big screen. But, in short, what worked for me was the thought processes that came when I stared change in the face.. 

  1. What can I learn from this?
  1. Best & Worse case scenario.. (typically from an anxious mind)
  1. Is this a long-term or short-term change?

These thoughts helped to focus my mind in being realistic about what I was being faced with and what I could take from the change. Everything we do in life, should bring positivity, not only to ourselves but also to those around us. 

So whether you are in the midst of change or aware of change coming your way, don’t resist it, prepare to ask yourself what you can learn from it and trust that change only comes to teach us something new and develop us into something and someone better!

There’s a bible verse that prompted me to write this tonight and that is: 

Romans 8:28 - And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.

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Matt :-)
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