I hope you have had a brilliant time celebrating Christmas and New Year and that anyone reading this who are trying to do 'Dry January' are still going, you can do this!
2018 for me, was absolutely AMAZING, lots of things that I am grateful for and with 2019 now in full swing, I have just as many things, if not more, to look forward to!
For me though, New Year doesn't have to come with New Year's Resolutions, but instead some plans and goals, realistic enough to achieve. I prefer the synonym 'intentions', but again, it takes a lot of determination to achieve goals that some of us set, for example, some people sign up to a gym with an aim to lose weight and tone up within the first two months of joining, not long after February, the gym feels less busy and there is a decline in members, that's because it is unrealistic to have such expectations and they are left feeling disappointed.
I joined the gym in February 2017 and spent a year sporadically attending as and when I could with a friend, with no expectations and no long term goal, just as a space which I enjoyed, quiet time and sometimes listening to some new music. I have recognised the fitness benefits to my gym attendance, especially over the last year, but I am also starting to recognise physical changes, which is something I am now working towards for 2019.
Saturday morning, I was thinking about one of my closest friends and the struggles she has been facing with Depression, she was inspired to start blogging and since had some of her blog posts shared on the Counsellors Cafe website.
A phrase came to mind and I couldn't help share it with her straight away, this was to:
2018 for me, was absolutely AMAZING, lots of things that I am grateful for and with 2019 now in full swing, I have just as many things, if not more, to look forward to!
For me though, New Year doesn't have to come with New Year's Resolutions, but instead some plans and goals, realistic enough to achieve. I prefer the synonym 'intentions', but again, it takes a lot of determination to achieve goals that some of us set, for example, some people sign up to a gym with an aim to lose weight and tone up within the first two months of joining, not long after February, the gym feels less busy and there is a decline in members, that's because it is unrealistic to have such expectations and they are left feeling disappointed.
I joined the gym in February 2017 and spent a year sporadically attending as and when I could with a friend, with no expectations and no long term goal, just as a space which I enjoyed, quiet time and sometimes listening to some new music. I have recognised the fitness benefits to my gym attendance, especially over the last year, but I am also starting to recognise physical changes, which is something I am now working towards for 2019.
Saturday morning, I was thinking about one of my closest friends and the struggles she has been facing with Depression, she was inspired to start blogging and since had some of her blog posts shared on the Counsellors Cafe website.
A phrase came to mind and I couldn't help share it with her straight away, this was to:
"Write the bad things in your life in the sand so they can be easily erased in your mind" - Matt P
My friend really appreciated it and sparked me getting back onto this blogging bandwagon, so for anyone reading this who feels that they weren't able to tie-up lose ends before finishing 2018 or you may be facing difficulty in your mind right now about current or historic incidents, I want you to try and imagine yourself on a sandy beach, writing those negative things/memories and words down, now step back and watch the waves wash over them and see how easily the sand is cleansed and how inviting the sand looks.
My friend really appreciated it and sparked me getting back onto this blogging bandwagon, so for anyone reading this who feels that they weren't able to tie-up lose ends before finishing 2018 or you may be facing difficulty in your mind right now about current or historic incidents, I want you to try and imagine yourself on a sandy beach, writing those negative things/memories and words down, now step back and watch the waves wash over them and see how easily the sand is cleansed and how inviting the sand looks.
Now, if you are able to do this, then treat yourself well and do this more often when you feel low. The more we hold on to negative thoughts, or repeat the negativity that is said towards us, the more we will write them on harder surfaces that will start to take root in your life and become your biggest critic, this in turn will hold you back from keeping the determination to succeed in the goals you set yourself!
I have to shoutout to my friend, tonight on Instagram she had the 'questions' feature on. I asked "If you could only ever say three words in your whole life, what would they be?" She responded with "ALWAYS LOVE YOURSELF". Strong words from someone struggling to do this consistently, but it makes me even prouder to know she is trying, she is living and she is loving herself more and more each day. She has inspired me to try and journal this year, using the MindJournal guide(which can be bought on Amazon) designed for men, to help me get started, I will try and keep you posted once I complete my first 'session'.
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Below is an image of some of the things I am looking forward to in 2019, some highlights will be my 1st Wedding Anniversary, Graduating from University and seeing my best friend get married as I take the role of 'Man of Honour' at her wedding!
2019, I'm coming for you!
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